Vincent Nicolai

Vincent Salem Nicolai was called from his earthly home to his heavenly one on May 18, 2018.

He was just seven, but had already touched the lives of many and left behind sweet memories that will be forever treasured. His smile was captivating, his laugh infectious, and his wonder and curiosity about the world never-ending. Vincent’s sheer abandon for life inspired all who knew him. You could venture all over New York City with Vincent and it wasn’t a rare occasion for people from all walks of life to greet him by name and ask him how he was.

Even at his tender age, Vincent was an accomplished artist with painting exhibits shown in multiple galleries. Vincent’s musical talents came naturally; he could play the piano by ear, was learning to play the drums, working on his guitar skills and like his namesake, Grandpa Vince, could already hold his own on the harmonica. Vincent loved everything about trains – riding them, listening to them, watching them, memorizing their schedules, their stops, and their speeds.

His attention to detail and memory were extraordinary God-given gifts and he often shared treasures and signs he found in nature with the people he loved – a bald eagle noticed soaring through the sky was always “a visit from Grandpa Vince”. Although his intellectual gifts gave him wisdom and insight beyond his years, he had a childlike joy that shone like a sunbeam through the clouds. For Vincent, every day was “the best day ever.”  We could all take a lesson from Vince and strive to treat every day like “the best day ever.”

Not all of Vincent’s family members left here on earth, or who have gone before, are known to us and they are recognized and honored. Vincent was dearly loved and will be forever missed by many, including: his father Charles Nicolai; his paternal grandmother Sandra Nystrom; his maternal grandmother Jessie Carter; his aunt Doreen Adams; his aunt Yvette Adams; his uncle Tyrone Adams; his uncle Heath Marsh; his uncle Michael and aunt Cheri (McAtee) Nicolai; his uncle James Nicolai; his aunt Caryn Woodstead; his uncle Thomas and aunt Nyrie (Breidenbach) Nicolai; his uncle Christopher and Laura (Dahlby) Nicolai; his uncle Gabe and aunt Maria (Nicolai) Gietzen; his uncle Steven and aunt Nicole (Nicolai) Scherweit; and a plethora of cousins.  Vincent was accompanied in death by his mother, Stephanie Adams Nicolai. He was preceded in death by his paternal grandfather Vincent Nicolai; his maternal grandfather Salem Adams; and his aunt Teresa Nicolai.

To honor his son’s life, Vincent’s father, Charles, will be establishing a fund for the purpose of saving lives through awareness, early detection and prevention of mental illness.  In lieu of flowers, memorials to the Vincent Nicolai Memorial GoFundMe site are welcome.



Thursday, 9:00AM - 5:00PM in Evans Funeral Home, New Rockford, ND.

Mass of Christian Burial:

Friday, June 1, 2018, at 10:30AM in St. John's Catholic Church, New Rockford, ND

Posted Condolences:
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Name: Linda Cook

Date: June 12, 2018Message: Dearest Dr. Nicolai and Family, My heart weeps for your loss of God's most precious gift. I don't know if you remember me or not but I was one of your first clients from the Warrenton Virginia office. I can not imagine your grief.  I am sending healing prayers and comforting hugs. May God favor you abundantly at this time. We will keep you uplifted in prayer.

Much love

Linda Cook



Name: Lynn and Dorene Fandrich

Date: June 8, 2018

Message: Sandy, Charles, and family,  We are so sorry for the loss of your little son and grandson Vincent.  You are in our thoughts and prayers.  It is a blessing we got to know your family in Beulah.  Our hearts are broken that you are hurting.  Vincent is with the Lord and in his Grandpa’s arms.  We will see them soon.




Name: Cathy Unterseher

Date: 5/7/2018

Message: My heart breaks for your family.  I know Dr. Nicolai of NR very well, and from knowing him, I'm only assuming that Vincent's father is just as humble and kind.  I am so sorry for this tragic loss.  I know from my own experience that there are no words to give that can erase the pain.  All I can say is that I will be praying for all of the Nicolai family...and esp Vincent's dad.  I pray that God holds you in His arms, and embraces you.  I pray that you feel His presence through friends and family.  I pray that you lean into God and 'let' Him carry you through this, the best you can.  It was God that helped me get through the trial of losing my husband on a Christmas don't run from God, run into His arms and let Him carry you while you can't carry yourself at this time.  Blessings to you.  Praying.....



Name: Chris and Gail Lane

Date: June 6, 2018

Message: Words cannot describe how heartbroken we are for you and your family. Our deepest sympathy and prayers to you and your family.  The Lanes from Warrenton.


Name: Terri Sollman

Date: June 3

Message: It's hard to lose a mother. My mother Marliss Wipperling and her were good friends.  I remember visiting your farm when I was young Todd was a baby.  Just wanted to tell you both your parents were gems.


Name: Anthony Lunn

Date: June 2, 2018

Message: A beautiful soul that departs from this earth never truly leaves, for they are still alive in our hearts, and through memories, they live on. We will miss you here in the Financial District. Condolences.


Name: Buffy Holbrook (Anderson)

Date: 06/01/2018

Message: Chuck and the rest of my amazing Nicolai family- I am so sorry about the loss of this sweet little boy. My thoughts and prayers are with you all during these difficult days and time.

Love to you all-

Buffy and Ricky

and all the kids


Name: Debra Stine (Wilson)

Message: Chuck I am thinking of you during this time of tragic loss and know if ever there is anything big or small that I can do for your family do not hesitate to ask! I am so very sorry! Your in my prayers always!



Name: Marilyn Anderson

Date: 06/01/2018

Message: Sandy and family. My heart is heavy, my prayers are for you today and many days ahead. May God be by your side as you go through the sorrow and the pain. May your memories of little Vincent comfort you.


Name: Ruthann Pisaretz

Date: May 31, 2018

Message: Charles and family, My deepest sympathy on your loss of a dear one, beloved one!  The joy he must have known with you as his father and the blessing he clearly was for you.  May the love continue across the Vail!

Much love!  Ruthann


Name: David Kovacik

Date: 5/31/2018

Message: God surely has his arms around Vincent.  His loss is so painful for all those who knew him. Our thoughts and prayers are with you Charles, hold on to all the good times with him. - One bright sunshine day you will see one of the colors in his paintings and that will be a moment of solace for you. love, David, Thomas, Linda.


Name: Rae Ann Hanson

Date: 5/31/18

Message: Chuck, I was so sorry to hear of the loss of your son.  You and your family have been and continue to be in my thoughts and prayers.


Name: Jan and Fraser Harrison

Date: May 30th 2018

Message: Sandi, Chuck, extended Nicolai family:  We were so saddened to hear of the tragic and untimely death of your beloved son/grandson.  It breaks our hearts to know that this talented and precious little man's life was cut so short.  Please know that we are keeping all of you in our hearts,

thoughts and prayers.  All  our love and deepest condolences. Hugs!!!  


Name: Mary Ann Marsh

Date: 5/30/18

Message: My deepest sympathies. Prayers and my dailyrosary for the Nicolai family. Peace be with you.


Name: Linda D Ottesen

Date: 05/30/2018

Message: Knowing your faith, I know that God will stand with you through these dark times.  Understanding is not ours, but our faith helps to ease the pain.  Vincent was a treasure and a gift, and one that I know you will carry in your hearts until you meet again.  My most deepest sympathy in this loss from your lives. 


Name: Kermit and Carol Beth Bye

Date: 5-30-2018

Message: Our deepest sympathies and caring thoughts for the Nicolai family on the loss of this beautiful little boy.


Name: Zue Zan Hanna

Date: 5/30/2018

Message: Our deepest sympathies on the loss of this exceptional youngster. The Nicolai family is in our  thoughts and prayers.

Bob and Zue Zan Hanna


Name: Vonnie (Kath) Fosse

Date: 5/30/2018

Message: Sending you many thoughts and prayers.  My heart breaks for all of you.


Name: Rob Manly

Date: 5/29/2018

Message: My most sincere condolences to the entire Nicolai family.  Thoughts and prayers to all of you from the Manlys.



Name: Jeff Braun

Date: May 29, 2018

Message: KSig brother Chuck.  I was shocked and saddened to see the news that morning and had quickly talked to Shannon who said he had already talked with you.  I'm glad you were able to reach out for a shoulder in a time of need.  If there's anything I can do, please let me know, and certainly the whole house stands with you.

Brother Braun




Name: Darlis Short

Date: 5/29/18

Message: My sincere condolences to his family especially Sandi Nystrom. My heart feels for you Sandi. Hugs and prayers. God bless


Name: Darcy Anderson

Date: 5/28/18

Message: My heart just breaks for Chuck and the rest of the family during this tragic time. My thoughts and prayers are with you.


Darcy and family


Name: Floann

Date: 5/25/2018

Message: Dear Nicolai family,

I'm so terribly sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you.

Flo Lund


Name: LaVerne Larson Andrus

Date: 5/31/18

Message: A child is such a special treasure that we expect to carry on ahead for all of us. My heart goes out to all of the family for the loss of such a beautiful child, as well as my prayers to each of you in trying to cope and understand.


Name: Sharon Lind (Kosbab)

Date: 5/28/2018

Message: So sorry to hear about this incredible loss. My deepest sympathies and prayers to his entire family.